I am in need of clarity. So much so I am having a hard time
focusing on writing this post without distraction from email notifications,
text messages, checking my Facebook, checking the SMPS NEO Twitter account, my
personal emails; yes that is plural, phone calls, my own thoughts, and back and
forth to the coffee pot. And this is just at work. And this is day two...With
all of these distractions it’s amazing I can ever feel a sense of
accomplishment.
How is it possible to really get anything done these days?
I know that statement is rather cliché, but it’s true. And
the more I am realizing I am living in a world of ‘noise’ the more I am
realizing I am addicted to it, and loathe it. I am an addict. It’s true, don’t
judge. I am a seven-day week, sprinting-this-marathon-life, no-rest-for-success
–or-social-interaction, to-do lists-pushing, productivity-driven,
cram-as-much-into-my-day freak of nature.
No wonder I am a restless sleeper.
And what exactly is the payoff of living this unrelenting
lifestyle? To feel a sense of accomplish. Yet I rarely do. The payoff is nothing.
But I can’t stop and I can’t slow down. The sign of a true addict. However a
new leaf is turning thanks to some amazing people in my life. I am beginning to
crave silence and solitude (the good kind), and clarity and refreshment that
stems from shutting down and shutting off.
I have my moments of non-stop marathon weekends, but sprinkled
throughout the first two months of this year, I have taken time to slow down.
Not stop completely, but sit, stationary, and do nothing. It’s uncomfortable.
All too often we fall into these small tasks that are then
extended, expanded and blown well out of proportion. All too often we lack
living in the ‘now’ and living in the future, yet complain about how quickly
time is flying by and what happened to the past? ‘Where did this year go?’ You ask. It was there, but you were too
busy looking ahead. The more we look ahead and the quicker we disregard the
present, the sooner we lose our foundation, roots and purpose for living.
We are so focused on where we are going, that we don’t know
where we are now, or where we started. My weekends fly by leaving me
overwhelmed and hoping for a third day to relax, but let’s be honest, a third
day means the opportunity to get more and more accomplished done.
Evolution is a slow phenomenon; it’s not on a measurable
timetable, deadline-based, 9-5 -40-hour work week. By definition, evolution is
a process of gradual, peaceful, progressive change or development, as in social
or economic structure or institutions. It’s a motion incomplete in itself, but
combining with coordinated motions to produce a single action, as in a machine.
The evolution of life changes over time. It takes aging,
maturity, and experience. From experience come outcomes either positive or
negative with some lesson learned. From this comes motivation and striving toward
success. Success is not attainable, and if it is, it’s not instantaneous. It’s
a progression. It takes time, patience and development.
We as a nation rush everything. Everything including what we
cannot control. Our youth are growing up too
fast; childhood is stunted into a long adolescents. People have named their
children prior to their births, etc. Is it any wonder there are more ‘adult
children’ relying on their parents for financial support?
We evolved from toddlers and children who were told to
solo-task —just eat your dinner, do your homework without the TV, don’t run
with scissors — to adults who are told to, and awarded for multi-tasking. We have evolved into a nation who check email
in bed, drive and text, workout while reading magazines, attend social
functions and update statuses.
Without the opportunity to live and evolve at a natural pace
of life, we have lost our foundation to whatever the next new thing is. Whether it is the newness of experience or
location, social media and the web, we as a society have woven ourselves into
tangle web. This web has us tangled in chaos and the noise we use to keep us
moving at this unrelenting speed.
This noise is anything that distracts us from the task at
hand, and pushes us toward the next task, the next event, the next reason to be
short with friends and family, complain toward others impatience while ours is
equally limited. We are chasing down
false successes, living in storage closets with the façade of a home, filling
them with false senses of happiness.
Don’t believe me? Go to an estate sale. Unfortunately, when
we leave this world, all this stuff just sit there and waits for someone to throw
it out, donate it or sell it online.
I was recently conversing with a total stranger leaving my
building about the weather in February. In Northeast Ohio we have had such
severe weather with record low temperatures and wind chills as has most of the
country. The pipes in my house have burst three times and thankfully thawed a
fourth. Long story short, people are tired of this winter. Yet, if we think of
winter and the season in a matter of weeks rather than months, we are in the
home stretch. However, my converser mentioned how long February is. ‘You know,
it’s the longest month of the year! I
just want this to be over!’
Her statement ‘I just
want this to be over!’ struck a chord in me. We can’t wait. We can’t wait
for anything. We can’t wait to do whatever it is we have to do, and then when we
are finally there, we can’t wait for it all to be over and to be on to the next
thing.
We tend to be equally short with the people around us. Gone
are the slow meals, sleeping in, genuine conversations with co-workers, passersby,
etc.
How many times have you been excited to go to a party and
then upon arrival, everyone stands around, stares at their phone, logging in,
checking in and posting about where they are and all the fun they are having
(on their phone). Or the bride-to-be elated until the real planning comes
along, the storage of all the new trinkets and toys necessary when combining
two fully stocked homes, and equally so like this winter we all ‘just can’t
wait for it all to be over!’
We are lost in a web.
But why? Because we are afraid of living in the present, we
are afraid to relax, we are afraid of the silence. But, from silence comes
clarity, creativity and a renewal.
We yearn for social interaction yet we dodge phone calls,
emails, and prefer text messages, Facebook posts and brief 136 character
messages in broken English. U knw wht I mn?
At the water cooler we thoughtlessly ask vague questions and
the answer is typically trivial. How was your weekend? I’m so busy. I’m so
tired. You know, it’s Monday…can’t wait for Friday! We are more apt to
friend total strangers on social networks rather than learn who we sit next to
at work. We are always somewhere else.
I was recently asked how ‘I was doing?’ in the office kitchen and my response of ‘You know what? I’m tired, cranky and I don’t
feel like being here right now.’ Throwing a curveball, I started feeling
better. And you know what? The co-worker I was chatting with said something
similar back. And it felt good. Sometimes it’s ok to be off and sometimes it’s
okay live on a cloud! Let’s hear about it! We’re all fine. Throw another line.
Equally so, the weather is going to stay how it is. Winter
will be winter and it will slowly transfer to spring, spring will be pretty
with tulips blossoming, bird singing and patio furniture moving. Soon, we’ll
find ourselves in a hot summer. And it’s going to be hot. It’s probably going
to be humid and uncomfortable and we probably can’t wait for it to all just be
over and move into fall. If these weather patterns did not occur, well I’m not
too sure I’d want to be standing in my office kitchen trying to decipher what
exactly is occurring outside.
Sure it’s cold, but you know what? Winter can be absolutely
beautiful. And in the silence of winter and the crispness of the season comes
clarity, creativity and renewal. I have been rudely awaken from this non-stop
go-go-go hibernation, and I’m not waiting for this season to be over. I’m
playing out in the snow. Won’t you join me in a snowball fight?